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So, it’s been a long, quiet summer.

Okay, not really quiet.  I’ve had a lot going on.  But like so many people, I’ve been so heartsick, that I’ve felt guilty about

sharing the things that I’ve been enjoying, the life I’ve been living, when so many people are under threat or literally dying.

Which honestly, kind of violates the essence of Strikhedonia.

A couple of months ago, the author Alexandra Rowland, ariaste on Tumbler, wrote a magnificent post that I now have hanging up in my office on the difference between grimdark and hopepunk.  Grimdark is basically the idea that the world is shit and humans are cynical and selfish and there is no good to be found.  Hopepunk looks at that same world and says fuck that, the world may be shit, but we don’t have to accept that. It is the belief that being kind is an act of resistance.  And that does reflect Strikhedonia.

So I’m clinging to hopepunk.  Even as I put my (very fruitful) garden to sleep, as we shift into a season of decay and rest, I will hope.  I will plan for spring.  I will resist.  I will share joy.

I define Strikhedonia as the “art and joy of not giving a damn.” But that not giving a damn doesn’t mean not caring about anything.  It’s about not caring when society tries to tear you down for the things that give you joy, that you are passionate about, that bring light and beauty into the world.  So I urge you to care.  Cry over injustice. Cheer for just desserts. Make something.  Share something. Keep caring about the things you care about.  Find new things, new

people, new places that make you happy.  Don’t stop.

So this summer, my joys were my garden, my chickens, my new car, a trip to New Orleans for the first time, discovering

The Adventure Zone, starting to play D&D both with my kids and with actual grown-ups, and an adventurous camping trip with some of my kids.

Here, have some pictures of my joy.  It was a good summer.





A Banked Fire

A Banked Fire


As you might have been able to tell by the radio silence around here, the end of the year was not an easy time for me.

Don’t get me wrong.  We had a lovely Thanksgiving, and Christmas at the cabin was the best ever, with no drama or disasters. I attended church and small group ministry as usual. I got involved with the local progressive group. I bought a mandolin for my birthday.

And yet things didn’t feel quite right.  Like I was holding my breath.  Waiting.

Apparently I was waiting on hope.  Hope can be debilitating when there’s nothing for it but to wait.  Hope when you can act is a different thing, empowering, energizing, but hope you can’t act on?  That’s hard.

After December 19, things started to break free.  There was no hope to wait on anymore.  It would be four years of struggle, of fighting and defending and supporting.  Four years of action.  I could do action.  And just as suddenly, things started to break free in my own life.  I started setting up my bullet journal for 2017, looking ahead at what was to come.  I recommitted to my weight loss (albeit AFTER all the goodies at work had done their damage.)  I used the money Mom gave me for my birthday to sign up for mandolin lessons.  I’m going to the Women’s March in Philly. (I can’t do the DC one because I have to serve at church the next day.)

Probably the most metaphoric thing of the whole period was that I learned how to bank a fire overnight.  This is probably one of those generational things that we’ve lost out on.  My mom never could explain to me how to do it, although she seemed to know how instinctively.  But as a society we don’t need to tend fires anymore, so we’ve put aside that knowledge.  I was reading a book on cabin building from the 1940’s, though, and there was the nugget of knowledge I’d been looking for since I was a kid.  Bury a log in the ashes and coals of a dying fire and close all the dampers.  In the morning, you will still have coals to start the new day’s fire with.  I only used 1 match our whole 5 days in the cabin.  My fire died, but the coals lingered to flare again the next day.

I’m ready to relight my fire for 2017.  And I have coals to share.



I’m still sick, so have a visual flashback of last week.


signs of a knitter in residence


Morning tea in one of the two mugs in the cottage. At least it’s a cute one!


Cool ironwork on the Colony Cafe.


Looking out over the Catskills. Very Sleepy Hollow.


We didn’t even notice these carvings at first. So lovely. I’m glad we did!


Another shot of Betty the tattoo dog. She was a sweetie. For a dog.


Maxfield Parrish sky.


One of the many slate walls behind the cottage. Again, very Sleepy Hollow.


Saugerties Lighthouse. Such a lovely place. The second floor is actually a B&B! (but totally out of my price range…)


The Festival before the deluge!


Believe it or not, I didn’t get enough. I need one more skein of each.


My final haul, not including two bags of soup mix and one jar of … stuff. Kind of a dip, kind of a chutney. Thing. Yummy, though!

Okay, going back to bed now. Bye!



I spent half of yesterday hanging out in a tattoo parlor.


Stop right there.  You can forget all the images you currently have of what a tattoo parlor looks like.  No blood red walls, no windowless rooms, no rows and rows of flash on the walls.  Woodstock Tattoo Studio is bright and airy and clean, with bare pine board floors and burlap-covered counters.  The walls are white, as is the shop dog Betty, and the images on the walls are vintage post cards and botanical prints.  Not your grandpa’s tattoo place.

I was there for Nikki, who was getting work done on her shoulder.  I’ll let her tell that story (I’ll link it, I promise).  It all started a couple of months ago when we both separately saw an article about pilgrimage tattoos and a man in Jerusalem whose family had been doing them for 400 years.  It got me thinking.  I knew she’d been wanted to get a crow tattoo.  She’d been collecting images for a couple of years.  And we were going to Woodstock anyway.  So I suggested it to her.  And then, as is always my way with something I think someone else might be interested in, I started doing some research.  There are a couple of places in town that do them, but when I saw the line work Felix does, I just fell in love.  Nikki agreed, and the rest is history.


It got me thinking about myself.  I’ve always been a “my body is my temple” sort of person.  I was absolutely phobic about surgery until I had my c-section with Morgan.  Even after that, the idea of doing anything elective to change my body seemed sacrilegious.  And then I had a hysterectomy.  And then I got cancer.  The temple had already been violated, but more importantly, my perspective changed.  As I was going through radiation, I decided that when I beat this, completely and totally, I was going to get the Queen of Swords from the tarot deck tattooed on the breast that tried to kill me.  Not a traditional one, but my interpretation of her, which is going to end up looking like Alex Kingston as Boudicea, I suspect.

I’ve also been wanting to get a phrase on my left arm.  “Intellect and Romance over Brute Force and Cynicism.”  Craig Ferguson used that to describe the main premise of Doctor Who, but my brain has latched onto it as my own life mantra.  Hopefully you can see that play out a lot here in my blog.  It’s been chewing around in my head, the need to wear these words, for a while.  So after Nikki finished today, I asked about it.  Because of the length of it, Felix couldn’t do it that visit, but I left him my details and we’re going to start laying it out.  We’re talking about coming back up in January or February for Nikki to get the rest of the shading done on her crow, and he said he could do it before or after that.  And then I will set up to get my Queen of Swords when we come up for Rhinebeck next year.  It will be five years and time.

But I don’t think I’m done.

I’ve already started thinking about getting a half sleeve on my right arm.  There’s a character in one of my favorite Sherlock fics who has a tattoo sleeve he’s grown on his arm over time, made up of elements that he’s passionate about as they develop (the most recent addition being hops vines as he’s gotten interested in brewing).  I’ve been thinking about what I would include in mine.  The things that are most important to me are my family, my identity and my faith.  So I’m trying to come up with elements to represent those.

For faith, I want a pentacle.  Something intricate and not necessarily Celtic, as I’m not necessarily Celtic.  And maybe some representation of Athena and/or Hephaestus.  They’ve been my patrons almost the whole thirty years I’ve been pagan.  The great blue heron is my totem, so maybe some of that.  For identity, I have always tied that in with my astrological sign, so some elements of that. My brother did a gorgeous drawing for me of my signs that would make a gorgeous tattoo on its own, but I’m not sure.  Pens for my writing.  Yarn for my fiber crafts.  For family, I’m not sure what I would do for my kids.  For my parents, I would do iris for my father and California poppies for my mother.  As Time goes on, I hope to add in elements from the farm.  I should probably include fannish elements as well, since they are so integral to my identity.

There’s lots of time to think about it.  But I know where I’m getting it done.

With a Bullet

With a Bullet

I started a bullet journal last month.


I blame Nikki.

(Those of you who read both our blogs won’t be surprised to see we blame each other for everything.  Because it’s true.  We’re co-enablers.)

Actually, I should probably thank her.  A couple of months ago, she started pinning a bunch of blog posts about journalling on Pinterest, and since I follow her, I saw them all.  Curious, i checked them out.  And promptly went, “no, no way, nuh-uh!” and backed out of there fast.  These weren’t journals, they were works of art, and I just had no time for something that looked so impractical.  Plus, frankly, I’m a crap artist.

But the damage was done, and occassionally bullet journal suggestions would crop up in my Pinterest feed.

Summer went on, and I felt so out of control, for lots of reasons.  Lists and notes started piling up, lost or forgotten.  I had my cell phone, but I had one app for this and two for that, idea lists on Drive and household project specs on Evernote and recipes on Pinterest.  My phone has limited memory, so I can’t have all the apps I use to keep organized.  I’m not sure what made me think of bullet journalling.  But I had a quiet moment at work, so on a whim I looked up “how to start bullet journalling.”  4 minutes and 12 seconds later, I grabbed a notebook and got started.

Bullet journalling is the perfect Strikhedonista tool.  Because it is what you make it, organized in a way that works for you. You don’t have to fit someone else’s idea of organized or useful, and it doesn’t have to be perfect right out of the gate. It’s kind of like the game Go.  Five minutes to learn, a lifetime to master.

So, here’s how to start your own Strikhedonista bullet journal.  First, watch this video:

Need a little more?  Try an infographic:

One more resource:  WTF is a Bullet Journal and Why Should You Start One  (This is the article that finally broke me.)

Now, and I cannot stress this enough:  DON’T LOOK AT ANYTHING ELSE.  Trust me, the information you get from these three sources is plenty, and anything more just gets really overwhelming.  Find your own groove, then see what other people are doing.

Grab a notebook or a blank book.  Most of us have something lying around the house, whether it’s a remnant of our last attempt at journalling, a composition book the kids never used, whatever.  It should be big enough to write everything you need but small enough for you to carry with you everywhere.  And a pen.  Don’t forget a pen.  Any pen will do, but if it’s one you really like, so much the better.  You do NOT need to spend $20 on a German-made blank book and $30 more on fancy pens.

This is what I started out with:


Exciting, huh?  Just a basic 8″x5″ spiral notebook with lines and a felt tip pen.  Standard office stock.  Literally, in this case.  I grabbed these out of the supply cabinet at work.  You can get fancy later, but until you know if this is going to work for you, why waste the money?

Now, go back and rewatch the video, following along with each step.  Once you get to the end of the video, you have the basics of the bullet journal set.  But that’s just the beginning.  The video only briefly touches on collections, but that’s really where your personalization will blossom.  As you add bullets in your rapid logging, start to keep an eye out for patterns.  Are you writing down authors or books you heard about?  Turn to your next blank page and start a To Be Read log.  Keep forgetting birthdays?  Why not keep a Birthdays collection?  I created a Running log, a Knitting projects log (so I knew where all my needles were), and a Fall Garden job list.  I also put the notes from the kids’ IEP meetings in here.  I created a special spread (two facing pages) for our trip to Woodstock next week, with contact details for the house we’re staying in, our schedule for the week, shopping lists, whatever.  While we’re there, I’ll handwrite notes and observations in the bullet journal, which will then go in the index.

20161004_144006My current index.

If something doesn’t work, stop doing it.  You aren’t stuck with it if you don’t use it.  I have half a dozen pages already that I may never actually use.  Need something more?  Add it!  After the first week, I realized I need to see my week at a glance so I know what’s coming over the next few days, more than the Monthly Log gives.  So I created a rough Weekly Log spread that’s gotten fancier as I’ve found what I need to keep track of.  I also realized I needed a 4 month at a glance working calendar for scheduling appointments.  So I printed out 4 months of my Google calendar and pasted it in the book.  I still keep the calendar in Google because I can add appointments and reminders to the kids’ calendars, but it’s so much easier when I’m scheduling appointments to have it in print. Other people have habit trackers and gratitude logs, menu planning and watch lists.  Find what is your.  Make the system your own.

But now all these pages are in the way of your Daily log!  Now what?  Just turn to the next blank page.  Always just turn to the next blank page.  Don’t try to segment the book ahead of time, because you don’t know what you’re going to want or need.  Just turn to the next blank page.  If you don’t want to keep your Daily logs in your index (I don’t), an easy way to keep track or where those pages are is by “threading”.  Find the page number for your new daily log page.  Then go back to your previous page. draw an arrow away from the existing page number and write the new page number.  On the new page, write the page number you’re coming from and an arrow pointing to the new one.


Now you can find your way back, no problem!

And don’t go bonkers on stuff!  You really don’t need a lot.  There are a ton of printables and stamps and templates and decorations and whatnot out there.  You don’t need it.  My second week, I bought a dozen different rolls of washi tape, but got rid of half of them a week later.  I just don’t use it.  Washi tape=fancy, expensive masking tape.  You don’t need it.  Here’s my current kit:


One set of colored pens (Pilot Razor Point V, $8).  These are my favorite pens for writing.  Not a huge color range, but enough to play with.

Washi tape.  Yes, I have some.  But I really only use one of these, the teal watercolor one in the front row.  If you love them, use them.  Otherwise, get 1-2 that you really love and step away from the rest.

A straight edge.  I can’t draw a straight line to save my soul.  I have one in my box and 1 in a pocket I put in the back of my journal.  With washi tape.

Removable index tabs.  I use these to mark the pages I go to a lot.  In my case, the monthly, weekly and daily pages.  Use more if you want.  These three work for me.  Other pages I go to often but not every day I mark on the edge.  With washi tape.  Don’t be like me.

Doublesided tape.  this I absolutely recommend.  I got mine for $1 at AC Moore, but it’s worth its weight.  Great for sticking anything in your book you want to keep.  I used it to stick the 4 month calendar in.

And obviously your notebook and pen.  Once you decide if the system works for you, then you can start playing with the fancier stuff.  I don’t know if I’ll ever get the schmancy German book everyone else uses.  It’s expensive, first off, although once I sat down and calculated it, per page it’s not that much more expensive than the other things I’ve looked at.  But I want it spiral bound.  That is purely a preference thing.  I have a couple of options to test, which I’ll probably report on here.  And pens.  I have a set of pens that I love, so I’m not going to go chasing around, but you can explore all the various options out there (Staedler and Sharpie ultrafines seem to be the most popular).  Find what feels good.  Don’t break the bank.

That’s it.  That’s all you need.  I fancied up the cover of mine with scrapbook paper (and washi tape), and I’m playing with prettier pages, but it will never be a work of art.  That’s okay.  It’s more important that it’s functional, and mine has proven itself as all that and more.  To the point where I now get as twitchy without it as I do if I forget my cell phone.

Bullet journalists talk about it being a tool for mindfulness, and I am finding that, although maybe not for the reasons other people do.  For me, my journal is a brain dump, a place I can keep all the thoughts and ideas constantly jockeying for may attention  When I write them down, I can forget about them for a bit and focus on whatever task I have at hand.  I’m forgetting things less and accomplishing more.  It really is helping me be more organized.

As long as I don’t leave it on my desk at work…



New month, new start, new challenge!

Like I said, I had intended to blog every day in June.  Daily blogging, while unsustainable (at least for me) in the long run, is a great way to build the blogging habit.  But it can also be a stress.  When I asked Deb if she wanted to do this with me, her response was, “No. No.  HELL no.”  Which I totally get.  It takes time to post a blog entry.  Maybe only half an hour, but some days that half hour is hard to carve out.  I had also intended originally to make 31 daily challenges for the month, like I see all over Tumblr and Instagram.  But as I started making the list, I realized I didn’t really want to respond to any of them, because they weren’t relevant to me or were just fatuous or pretentious.

So who knows what you’ll get this month.  There will definitely be sheep at some point, as Nikki and I are going up to New York Sheep and Wool in two weeks.  There will also be knitting because same.  There may be pictures.  There may be a vlog, who knows.  But I will share something, somehow, every day this month.

I hope.

Blog Mentality

Blog Mentality

Sometimes deciding what to write for a post is a challenge.  The conventional wisdom says that a blog should be focused on one topic, and you should present yourself as an expert on that topic.  Frankly, for the most part I find those blogs boring.  There are a couple that I read, like Lovely Bicycle and Food in Jars, that are single topic but that I love because of the writing or the topic itself.  Otherwise, though, I’ll hit a focused blog when I’m doing research on that topic, but once I’ve gotten what I needed, I’m gone.

The blogs I like best are the ones about a life.  Obviously I come to them initially for a shared area of interest, but I stay because the blog is a story rather than a manual.  And I don’t want that story to be a forced way to get me to a recipe or to order something.  Just…a life.  Cold Antler Farm and Yarn Harlot are like that.  One’s ostensibly about homesteading and the other about knitting, but those things are intertwined into their lives.  I know about Jenna’s dogs and falcon’s and Stephanie’s kids and parents.  There are times it’s like reading a novel, and I can’t wait for the next chapter to find out what happens.  Sometimes I don’t get to know, because those things are private, not meant for public consumption.  Which I respect.  I care.  I want to know about what happens next.

I hope that’s what this blog is like.  This is the story of my life.  My life is messy and convoluted, and my interests shift week to week, month to month, year to year.  But all the pieces make up me.  I am not one thing, and neither is this blog.

I hope you enjoy the next chapter.  I can’t wait to see what happens myself!

Going to the chapel…

Going to the chapel…

I haven’t been to church more than a handful of times as an adult.  A couple of weddings, a couple of funerals, my father’s 50th anniversary of investiture.  I don’t count ritual as “going to church”.  It’s a completely different dynamic, and a bit less baggage-laden (or I guess at this point differently baggage-laden!)  Church has very specific connotations for me, and not all of them are good.  As a minister’s daughter, I’ve seen how the sausage is made, as it were.  I’ve seen the infighting and pettiness, the moral superiority, the condesention, the apathy, the martyrdom, all the things that make up the dynamic of any church group.  Actually, a lot of it was the same in my coven/tradition, so it’s not strictly a church thing.  But my whole childhood was contingent on the whims of the congregation, so you take that sort of thing a bit more personally.

I’ve been solitary for seven or eight years now, and I’m feeling the lack of community in my life. Especially in the last few weeks and months, with the surge in violence and discrimination and political bile.  There’s only so much I can do as an individual, and I started to feel starved for like-minded community. So I started doing some research.

Denomination was never a question.  I can’t go back to the church of my youth, as even the most liberal UCC churches around here are still more conservative than I’m comfortable with.  Plus the whole God thing.  I’m a Pagan humanist, so I needed a humanistic church.  Which meant Unitarian Universalist.  I’ve often thought about going to a UU church.  I even at one point considered going into the ministry. Hell, they even have a specific Pagan wing of the denomination.  So yeah, if I went back, that would be where I’d go.

Surprisingly (or not, considering the area), there are half a dozen UU churches near me, although it will take some getting used to to actually have to DRIVE to church instead of rolling out of bed, stumbling into my church clothes and crossing the driveway to get to service. Two are within a half hour drive. One of them has a Pagan circle. So that was decided.  I’d explore the BuxMont UU.

I had planned to go the Sunday before Thanksgiving, but confusion about an appointment for Morgan and the demands of Thanksgiving prep kind of put the kaibosh on that.  But I think in the end that worked out for the best.

Honestly, though, I was scared to death to go.  Introversion is not a fun thing, especially when you’re struggling to overcome it.  Add to that the whole haven’t been to church since childhood thing, and I was feeling a lot of regression coming on.  I actually called my mother to ask her how to adult at coffee hour BECAUSE I HAD NO CLUE HOW TO ADULT AT COFFEE HOUR.  I did come close to bailing.  “It’ll keep until January, right?”  But I didn’t.  Instead I got up, dressed in my subtle Mycroft Holmes cosplay (wool trousers, striped shirt, waistcoat, black blazer with 2″ heel boots), screwed my courage to the sticking place, and went.

Walking in the door was like coming home.  That smell of stale coffee pervades every church I have ever been in.

The building was nice.  Modern, which isn’t my favorite, but not soulless, if that makes sense.  Or maybe it was just the smell messing with my perceptions!  I signed in, got my nametag and headed into the sanctuary. The service itself was nice. Not that different from every service I’ve ever been in, really.  And points to me for remembering my wallet for offeratory!  Adulting!  I didn’t recognize any of the hymns, and my throat and face got tired singing.  Just out of practice!  But I never had any moments of discomfort where I had to mentally substitute deity names, so by the time the sermon came around, I had stopped watching for landmines and was able to relax.  And the minister invoked Terry Pratchett in the sermon, so major bonus points!  The congregation was a nice mix of ages and genders, although not a lot of ethnic diversity, unsurprising given the area.

After service I managed to talk to two people at the coffee hour, but then they did a dedication of their new labrynth, which yay!  I went down for that, and the mother of the boy who designed it is the leader of the Pagan circle, so I got to talk to her briefly.  Interestingly enough, she also lives in Lansdale and her son is also spectrum.  So yeah, I think this was the day I was meant to come!  And after that, they had a new members meeting where people could learn some about the UU denomination in general and BuxMont in particular, so I hung around for that as well.  The leader was fun.  He says he’s a Quaker one week a year and a Catholic one day a year, and the rest of the time he’s still looking.  I can get behind that!

By the time that was over, second service was starting, so I headed home.  I wasn’t energized like I am after ritual, but that may have at least partly been because of the stress of strangers.  Otherwise, though, it felt good.  So like a good Pagan girl, I am dedicating myself to a year and a day.  I’ll go to church at least twice a month and to all the high holidays that the Pagan circle sponsors.  Then next December I’ll see where I’m at and if it’s still feeling good, I’ll become a member.

Interestingly, Hero’s started talking about joining me and maybe bringing her friends.  We’ll start with just her at the Yule ritual and a Sunday service or two, see what she thinks.  But her eyes lit up when I told her they accept transgender people.  So maybe it will be a good fit for her, too.

South Africa in my Kitchen

South Africa in my Kitchen


Last night was the big South African dinner.  What a great experience!  Not everything met with universal approval, and there were a couple of bumps in the cooking, but it was fun, and I learned a lot!

The Menu:

Chicken potjiekos
Cape Malay curry
Sweetcorn bake
Yellow rice
Miele pap
Milk tart
Malva pudding

(All these recipes and some others I found in my research are on my Pinterest board for South Africa.)

The Cooking:

This was a LOT of food, kind of like preparing for Thanksgiving.  But I’ve gotten really good at Thanksgiving, so I went at it with the same kind of organizational plan as I do for that:  Make as much as I can as far ahead as I can.  I actually probably could have started a little sooner than I did, but it all worked out.

I started on Thursday with the blatjang, which is a kind of fruit chutney served with meat dishes.  Several of the recipes I’d looked at called for it as a side, so I figured I’d better have some.  The recipe said it made 2 1/2 quarts, which was way more than I needed, so I halved it.  The only liquid in it is apple cider vinegar, which you cook down like you would a jam.  The only problem with that is that as it evaporates, the whole house smells like vinegar.  A couple of times the kids came into the kitchen and winced from the smell.


Dried apricots and raisins soaking in the vinegar overnight


Almonds and spices added, ready for the long, slow cook.


After an hour


Another 45 minutes later and it’s ready!

Even after cooking that all down, it still made more than a quart.  I’m going to have to run it through the canner.  I filled a pint jar and 7 half pints, so yeah, lots more than I needed!  I had expected it to be sweet, like a mango chutney, but while it had some sweetness, it’s still very acid.

Friday night was the chakalaka and milk tart.  I love chakalaka.  Mostly because it means I get to say “chakalaka”. Which is an awesome word.  Everyone should eat this stuff just because of the name.  And because it tastes good.  It’s basically carrots, peppers and black beans, but it has great flavor and a really nice mouth feel.  Which sounds pretentious, but honestly it does.  We all liked it warm, although the recipe says to serve it warm or cold.  I served it cold for dinner, but I think I like it better warm.  You could eat it as is, or throw some cooked chicken or pork on it to make a nice meal.


The milk tart didn’t go as well.  The initial recipe wasn’t well written, with no instructions on how long to boil the custard mixture or even if you should, and the sequence of instructions wasn’t clear.  But I trusted it as best I could and ended up with this:


Ugh.  Maybe it will set up over night, thought I.  I made the custard sauce for the Malva pudding and went to bed, hoping.

It didn’t.  *sigh*  Into the trash it went, and I scrambled to find a new recipe.  Found a good one on Allrecipes and banged out the crusts before I went to PT.  I didn’t get back from that until 10:30, and then it was full bore cooking until dinner at 5.

First off I finished the tarts.  This filling thickened up nicely and made two beautiful, smooth pies:

20151024_113243Then I did the Malva pudding, figuring I could add the syrup just before dessert.  Which worked out pretty well.


I was a little worried at how full the dish was that it might overflow.


But it worked out just about perfect!

I figured I’d do the bobotie next, as it was kind of like a meatloaf, so I could put it together and stick it in the fridge until it went in the oven.


All the yummy bits


All mixed together


And in the casserole.

Oh yeah, that was a good choice.  All the lovely smells of onions and curry and turmeric were starting to fill the house.  Hero helped me with the knife work on this part until she forgot the difference between sliced and chopped.  Honestly, what do they teach kids in culinary school these days? 😉

So that went in the fridge while I made the pap.  I figured I could make that ahead and keep it in the crockpot on warm until dinner.

20151024_171217I don’t think I made it right.  It came out as more like a really dense dough than a polenta, and it was still really grainy, even though I added more water.  I think this is one of those situations you need to have had the real thing to know if you did it right.

The sweetcorn bake took no time to throw together and in the oven, although I was reminded again of the fact that I cannot cream butter by hand.  Thank you, Kitchenaid mixer!  Put that in the oven, set the time, then figured I’d do a clean up before the final push.  Loaded the dishwasher, wiped counters, pulled the plug to move the mixer back…and pulled the entire powerstrip out of the wall.  Which was fine, I just plugged it back in, completely forgetting that the microwave that had just been reset had had the timer for the sweetcorn bake.  Which I’d forgotten was in the oven.

Next up was the curry, as that had the longest cooking time.  Another round of sauteeing onions and garlic, veggies, meat, then adding in the tomatoes, fruit and spices.  Oh. My. God.  Before it had even had its stewing time, I wanted to crawl into the pot of this stuff and never come out.

20151024_152852Yes, you’re seeing right, those are banana slices in there.  And apricots, raisins, almonds, carrots, ginger, curry, turmeric, cardamom… Foodgasm doesn’t even come close.  I had been excited about this recipe even before this just because it seemed to have all the flavors of Indian food that I love without the heat that I can’t cope with.  But honestly?  You can’t really compare this two.  They’re just totally different creatures that share genes.  Very, very good genes.

That had to simmer for a couple of hours, so I put the bobotie in the oven…and found the sweetcorn bake.  Just in time!  It was perfectly done, despite my inattention, and looked yummy!

20151024_171331Then it was back to slicing up veggies for the potjiekos.  Potjiekos is Afrikaans for “little pots”, and basically it is a layered dish intended to be cooked in a cast iron pot over a fire.  For this one, we sauteed onions, garlic and chicken, then layered on potatoes, sweet potato, squash, carrots, green beans and mushrooms, then added cinnamon stick, bay leaves and pepper, put the lid on it and forgot about it.  On purpose this time.


The recipe specifically says not to stir it, so I didn’t.  Much.  I just couldn’t see how the seasoning was going to get through everything!

Last up was the yellow rice, which, once you get it in the pot, is pretty hands off.


From there I added the custard to the top of the bobotie and started laying out the table.


Most of the custard slid down the sides, dang it!


The Dinner



None of the adults I’d invited aside from Nikki were able to come, but most of Hero’s friends were there.  Have you tried feeding new foods to teenagers?  But I have to give them points for trying.  They all liked the potjiekos best, probably because it was a) chicken and 2) the least seasoned of everything.  To my surprise, they liked it with the pap, so maybe I didn’t go entirely wrong there.  My favorite was the curry with the yellow rice.  I was disappointed in the bobotie, which I had expected to really like.  But the flavor of the lamb just overwhelmed everything else in the dish.  the blatjang helped a little, but it wasn’t my favorite.  But that’s okay, because Morgan really liked it and wasn’t crazy about the curry.  Balance!

We had the main courses, then took a break to clean up a bit while I put the finishing touches on dessert.  Which I completely forgot to take pictures of.  Doh.  The milk tart was nice and refreshing, not too sweet.  Nikki and I agreed it would be really good with some fresh fruit or compote, or a nice sweet wine.  The Malva pudding was the opposite end of the spectrum, almost too sweet!  It’s like a dense bread pudding soaked in simple syrup.  It really needed the custard to cut the sugary sweetness, but it was still really good.  I think both of those are being added to the recipe collection.

The Aftermath

As I expected, there was a lot of food left over.  I had prepared by getting take out boxes from the dollar store, and packed up samplers for the folks who couldn’t make it.  The curry I packed up in single(ish) meal containers for me to take to work, and did the same with the bobotie for Morgan to have for his lunches.  The potjiekos I split into two containers to be the meat and veg base for a couple of last minute soups.  So not much went to waste.  Except the pap.

So all in all, a good experiment.  I’m looking forward to the next one!  The mother of one of Hero’s friends is Colombian and has offered to send us some dishes if we do a Colombian night, and I’m not about to say no to that.  Apparently she makes amazing cicerones.  But it will be a couple of months.  Next month I’m cooking actual Thanksgiving, so I’m not putting myself through two major meals in a month.  I think I’m going to take them out to a Japanese hibachi place instead.  It’s a kind of cooking I can’t do myself, and while they’ve had sushi, they haven’t had other kinds of Japanese food.  December will be crazy with getting ready for the holidays, so I thought we’d to something Scandinavian (cuz you know, that’s where Santa comes from), so I’m thinking fondue.  We do a home fondue for New Year’s Eve, but this way the kids can see just how bad I do at it!

So, farewell from South Africa!  I’ll report back with our next destination!  And if you have any questions about what we ate or how I made it, let me know!